New Paltz wedding celebration of Susie & Jordan – the party

More from Susie & Jordan’s intimate Hudson Valley wedding celebration…

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What was your favorite part of your day?
Our favorite part was sitting around the dinner table for the toasts.  We were all one big family at that moment.

What was your favorite part of planning your wedding and why?
Definitely the food! We had a lot of fun going through the menu and choosing items to taste. We’re especially excited about the welcome station with donuts and hot cider with bourbon!

What was the most challenging part of planning your wedding and why?
Unfortunately, securing the venue was a bit of a roller coaster – our original location in Rhinebeck fell through after we had it booked for 8-months. It’s a long story, but ultimately, we’re very happy with how things worked out. We think it must’ve happened for a reason. We also got a little push back from family for choosing not to have a formal ceremony. We held our ground because it was important that we stay true to ourselves and who we are as a couple. For the most part, everyone came around.

How did you choose your venue?
We knew that we didn’t want to have a time limit on the festivities, so we decided on a luxury vacation rental so that we could make a long weekend out of it and have our family stay at the property with us. It was crucial that we were able to dance and hang out well into the evening – ultimately this beautiful house in New Paltz allowed for us to have a pre-wedding cookout the night before, the wedding dinner and cocktail party, an after party, and a brunch the following morning.  We settled on the Hudson Valley area because we knew it would be beautiful in autumn and it’s also not too far for out-of-town guests. This particular house spoke to us because the town of New Paltz has a great vibe and the owner, Gina, is really warm and fun.

Tell us about your cake and/or dessert?
Our moms made miniature cheesecakes in three different flavors for dessert: chocolate, pumpkin and vanilla bean.  A big, elaborate cake felt too fancy, plus our moms are really excellent bakers.  We even had a stash of vanilla beans that Jordan’s aunt had imported on her last trip to Bali… everything was delicious. We gave a cheeky nod to tradition with one large cheesecake with a ceramic bride and groom cake topper (only on ours, the bride is giving the groom a “love pinch”).

Now that you’re married, and you’ve been through planning a wedding together, what advice would you give to other couples who are just starting the process?
It’s about who you are as a couple and what you want that day to feel like.  Take your time, talk things through and don’t take it too seriously – weddings should be fun. Keep an open mind to suggestions, but make sure not to get lost in them.

How does it feel different being married?
We’re just really happy that we actually did it after being together for almost 9 years, it refreshed the sense of permanence that we’ve always had about our relationship. And of course, we’re both happy to finally wear the wedding bands we bought almost a year ago.

What’s next for the two of you?
House, 2nd dog, honeymoon – not necessarily in that order.

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Venue: Private residence –  New Paltz, NY
Caterer: Bridge Creek Catering – New Paltz, NY
Dress: Anthropologie
Suit: Brooks Brothers
Cake: Moms
Venue coordinator: Wendy Nash
Flowers: DIY by Susie
Paper cranes & granola favors: DIY by Susie & Jordan
Invitations: Wedding Paper Divas

Hudson Valley wedding photographer – Leslie Barbaro

New Paltz wedding celebration of Susie & Jordan – the preparations

Susie & Jordan planned a casual reception with a cocktail party vibe to celebrate their union with family and friends. It was such a tight-knit group that every single person they invited was in attendance. They were married in a private ceremony with their parents a few days prior to their celebration, where they were most excited about “having everyone we love in the same place and treating them to a good time with plenty of food, drink, laughter and music.”

Read a little about Susie & Jordan below and check back soon for photos from the party. Enjoy!

How did you meet?
A mutual friend of ours introduced us in college. We got along well right away and started dating very soon thereafter.

Thinking back to early in your relationship, when was the moment you knew you wanted to marry your spouse?
It’s difficult to pinpoint a specific moment. Our relationship has always felt very easy and each new phase seems to happen naturally and gradually.

Who proposed and how?
Susie: Jordan was very particular in his idea for the engagement ring. He wanted a sapphire because it was unique, different, special and strong. He caught me completely off guard one night after a long day at work. I think it’s the biggest surprise I’ve ever experienced. He told me that his plan was to give it to me for Christmas, but he couldn’t wait – it was wonderful.

Jordan: I got Susie an engagement ring, intending it as a surprise Christmas gift.  I decided on a sapphire, knowing Susie would want something elegant, but non-traditional.  After researching sapphires, I found the perfect ring.  As soon as I held the ring in my hand Christmas felt too long to wait, so I surprised Susie that night. It was November 19th.

Tell us about your décor, flowers, etc.
This was largely a DIY wedding, so we personally selected every last detail and quite a few things were handmade. We bought and arranged all of the flowers, made the favors (jars of Jordan’s homemade granola with paper crane name tags that Susie folded), carved the pumpkins (which were drilled to look like Moroccan lanterns and placed in the windows and around the grounds), and strung lights everywhere. The greatest thing about doing it this way was the amount of teamwork from family and friends that made everything come together. It was very special.

Tell us about your dress
Well… it was red. It’s so much more fun than white, isn’t it? (And when I wear white, I spill things. Jordan and I have that in common.)

What was the one thing you were most stressed about and how did that turn out?
The weather! During the weeks leading up to the wedding, the forecast for that day was sunny and 70 degrees, but then things started to take a turn because of a hurricane working its way up the coast.  We ended up with quite a chilly and cloudy day, but we think the autumn menu made more sense with a chill in the air and everyone says that the pictures will turn out better.:-)

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Venue: Private residence –  New Paltz, NY
Caterer: Bridge Creek Catering – New Paltz, NY
Dress: Anthropologie
Suit: Brooks Brothers
Cake: Moms
Venue coordinator: Wendy Nash
Flowers: DIY by Susie
Paper cranes & granola favors: DIY by Susie & Jordan
Invitations: Wedding Paper Divas

Hudson Valley wedding photographer – Leslie Barbaro

NYC wedding reception of Chris & Jason| The Press Lounge

Final post from Chris & Jay’s wedding. As expected the dancing started after dinner and was non-stop until the end of the night thanks to Carlos Nascimento and Elliot DeHoyos at the turntable!

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How did you choose your venue?
The Press Lounge was perfect because it had this amazing roof area that overlooked Hell’s Kitchen – a meaningful area for us. Looking out over the neighborhood and being on the Hudson River was important to us and view is arguably one of the best in the City. They were very accommodating, great to work with and had great food.

The fact that it was also attached to a hotel where most of our guests were able to stay was a bonus!

Tell us about your decor, flowers, etc.
We chose Sunflowers in honor of my mom.  They were her favorite and since she couldn’t be there, we wanted to represent her in that way.  I asked Fountain House to buy and design the flowers.  The members recently started a flower arranging biz. They turned out beautiful.

Tell us about your cake and/or dessert.
The cake was delicious-lemon butter cream with berries.   It was a little lopsided because we asked the pastry chef to design it like the New Museum downtown.

What was the one thing you were most stressed about before the wedding and how did it turn out?
The friggin’ weather. I was checking three different weather services every 15 minutes.  There was one point right before the ceremony where I realized that I was being crazy – when instead of looking up at the sky, I was checking the apps!  We got what we wanted though… no rain and a gorgeous full moon over Manhattan.

How does it feel different being married?
I feel more grounded.  It’s fun being married to your best friend.

What’s next for the two of you?
Jason: We just took a trip to New Orleans to celebrate my 40th birthday. Chris just surprised me by flying my siblings to NOLA to celebrate. Now that’s a good spouse!

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Officiant: August Gold
Cake & caterer: PRINT restaurant – New York, NY
Cake topper: La Dolly – Etsy
Suits: Ted Baker
Venue: The Press Lounge – New York, NY
Venue coordinator: Wendy Nash
Flowers: Fountain House
Ceremony music: Jason Adasiewicz – Chicago, IL
Entertainment / DJs: Carlos Nascimento, Elliot DeHoyos
Wedding coordinator: Justin Maloney of Convivium Catering – New York, NY

NYC same-sex wedding photographer – Leslie Barbaro

 

NYC wedding ceremony of Chris & Jason | The Press Lounge

Chris & Jay’s ceremony was absolutely beautiful. The weather, the view, and most importantly the friends and family that surrounded them as they said their vows. Chris’ brother, a professional vibraphonist (how cool is that?!) played as their mother walked down the aisle with the couple. August Gold made an incredible officiant and I love that their fathers acted as the ring bearers – each presenting his new son-in-law with a wedding band destined for his own son’s hand. And of course there was a moment of celebration during the service to acknowledge that their partnership is legally recognized throughout the country!

When I asked Chris and Jay to write a little about themselves, this is lovely response I received:

Three ways we’ve changed in the last five years together

Jason: I have been able to truly experience love. All the times I had thought I was in love, turned out to be ego-based. I love Chris on a soul level and its hard to articulate, but there is a big difference. I also feel Chris’ love for me. I am not scared around him. Fear rarely exists in our relationship and when it comes up, we handle it.

I now understand partnership. It’s not always easy, but its worth it. Making an effort to give, being able to receive. Recognizing when I am being selfish. I love living with Chris. I remember the first time we spent an entire afternoon together without saying a word. We are very comfortable in each other’s presence.

I learned how to create a future. Chris has taught me how to be responsible with our resources. We own a home together. We have no debt and a lot of savings.

Chris: I am more loving. Jay has deepened my ties to family and friends and taught me to be more patient and proactive in relationships. He has also modeled for me what a partnership commitment truly means – a promise to always show up for the other person, even when it’s tough.

I am more fully expressed. Jay has opened my mind to the value of greater self-awareness and more authentic communication. I love that he does disciplined work in this area and graciously shares it with me.

I am more grateful. Every day being with Jay reminds me how incredibly fortunate I am. I know many people who don’t have someone they love as much as I love Jay and he loves me.

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What was your favorite part of the wedding day?
Jason: August wrote such a beautiful ceremony.  Standing with Chris in front of our friends and family felt surreal.   When August asked everyone to stand and recite the Gaelic blessing to us, I was certainly overcome with emotion.  It was really special and exactly what we wanted.

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Coming Friday – reception photos!

Officiant: August Gold
Cake & caterer: PRINT restaurant – New York, NY
Suits: Ted Baker
Venue: The Press Lounge – New York, NY
Venue coordinator: Wendy Nash
Music: Jason Adasiewicz – Chicago, IL
Wedding coordinator: Justin Maloney of Convivium Catering – New York, NY

NYC same-sex wedding photographer – Leslie Barbaro

Manhattan wedding preparations of Chris & Jason | The Press Lounge

I have known Chris and Jay for a long time and it was an absolute honor to photograph their wedding. Their description of the vision for their wedding day was perfect – “a modern day LOVE fest – great music, great food and great people – celebrating us, family and friendships, old and new.” They planned their celebration thoughtfully, using the colors blue and orange throughout – from attire to decor to the beautiful invitations that Chris designed himself.

More from the couple below… enjoy!

How did you meet?
We started hanging out through mutual friends in the spring and summer of 2002. We quickly moved to doing things just the two of us. Our friendship deepened in the summer of 2003 when our friend Sue founded S.W.i.S.H. – a gay-straight advocacy group, dedicated to furthering the LGBT rights movement. Alas, we dated other people while remaining friends for 7 years.

Sunday, April 18, 2010 is the date we count as our anniversary. We had been to a concert at Lincoln Center the night before and had a wonderful time. Although we didn’t completely understand what was happening, Sunday turned into a magical, impromptu date. We went to the New York Public Library and a Tim Burton exhibit at the Museum of Modern Art. We had a romantic breakfast in the morning and pigged out on Mexican food in the afternoon. For dinner we ordered in Thai food and watched a nature documentary. It was an absolutely perfect day.

Who proposed and how?
Jason: I proposed at 7:30am on  Tuesday, June 26, 2013 – the day DOMA (the Defense of Marriage Act) was overturned in the Supreme Court. They hadn’t yet released their decision, but Chris was leaving for work and I was feeling optimistic. So before he left, I put my coffee down and got down on one knee. It was a beautiful moment.

Thinking back to early in your relationship, when was the moment you knew you wanted to marry your spouse?
Waking up next to the person you love and being happy each morning was an indicator that this was who I was supposed to be with.

Tell us about your attire.
Our suits were from Ted Baker. We wanted to dress similarly, but in different colors.  We wore bow-ties because why not?!

Now that you’re married, and you’ve been through planning a wedding together, what advice would you give to other couples who are just starting the process?
Make it easy for your guests. Do everything you can to make them comfortable. The wedding reception is not just for the couple… otherwise you would have gone to City Hall. Enjoy the process.  Don’t let one half do all the work.  We both had different strengths and enjoyed working on this “project” together!  We found out more so through this process, that we are a good team.

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Check back Wednesday for a peek at the ceremony photos!

Officiant: August Gold
Cake & caterer: PRINT restaurant – New York, NY
Suits: Ted Baker
Venue: The Press Lounge – New York, NY
Venue coordinator: Wendy Nash
Flowers: Fountain House
Ceremony music: Jason Adasiewicz – Chicago, IL
Entertainment / DJs: Carlos Nascimento, Elliot DeHoyos
Wedding coordinator: Justin Maloney of Convivium Catering – New York, NY

NYC same-sex wedding photographer – Leslie Barbaro

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