I first met Roshan when I photographed her sister’s wedding and it was an honor to be asked back by the family to document Roshan & Dave’s day.
About the couple…
Roshan & Dave met online in 2012 while living in NYC. They connected over the fact they had both lived in Tokyo as children. Turns out they went to the same school (The American School in Japan) but missed each other by a year. Dave left Japan and moved to England in 1998 and Roshan arrived in 1999. They immediately started dating and a year and a half later, they both moved to Denver for new jobs. They returned to NYC in the winter of 2016 and now live in Brooklyn Heights.
Who proposed and how?
Roshan: A little more than three years after we met, Dave made a ring out of a starburst wrapper, got down on one knee at our favorite spot – the top of the mountain at Winter Park Ski Resort – and asked if he could ask my parents and if we could look at real rings together. Six weeks later he proposed again at Mount Falcon with a real ring. I accepted… both times. The second ring had diamonds and a sapphire. I wear the second ring but still have the first.
About the ceremony…
Roshan & Dave’s service combined themes from Unitarian Universalism and a traditional Persian wedding ceremony. Dave’s parents played two musical compositions during the ceremony and the couple was seated at a Sofreh-Aghd, a Persian wedding spread with items of special significance. The mirror of fate reflects the united image of the couple and signifies light, happiness and the bright future ahead. The hand-woven Persian cloth symbolizes family and tradition. Flatbread, panir cheese and herbs symbolize prosperity for feasts. A bowl of crystallized sugar and other sweets symbolically sweeten life for the newlyweds. Gold coins represent wealth and prosperity. Wild rue is an incense to bring health and ward off the evil eye. Decorated eggs, walnuts, pomegranates and apples represent fertility and unity. The Qur’an and a prayer spread show reverence and ask for god’s benediction. And during the ceremony, married women selected by the couple grind Kalleh Ghand (sugar cones) over the bride and groom to sweeten the newlyweds’ lives.
What was your favorite part of the wedding day?
Roshan: The ceremony from start to finish was my favorite. I know it sounds cliché but my favorite part of the day was walking down the aisle with my parents to Dave. Because of the type of ceremony we had, we were able to sit facing all of the people that came to celebrate us. It was very humbling to look out and see everyone who had traveled to my small town in New Jersey just for us.
Dave: When Roshan walked down the aisle.
How does it feel different being married?
Roshan: Great! It’s fun to have people compliment your rings but not ask about your wedding planning. When you’re engaged everyone looks at your ring and then asks you ten questions.
Venue: Spring Lake Golf Club – Spring Lake, New Jersey
Dress shop: Lovely Bride – New York, New York
Suit: My Suit – New York, New York
Hair: Vanity 18 Hair Studio – Lake Como, New Jersey
Make-up: Cindi Marrero
Flowers: Pam Newell – Westfield, New Jersey
Cake: Chocolate Carousel – Wall, New Jersey
Officiant: Carol Haag
Band/DJ: Fantasy Productions DJ – New Jersey
New Jersey wedding photographer: Leslie Barbaro