More from Margaux & Marco’s Brantwyn wedding…
Tell us about your decor, flowers, etc…
We both love to travel and incorporated this into our wedding day. Every table was a country or location we have visited in the past five years. Our table signs included a picture of us in that destination and a short paragraph about our “adventure” there (Aruba, where we got engaged or Las Vegas, where we were lucky in love, but not in roulette). Our place cards were vintage post cards and the stamp color was an indicator of the entrée the guest has selected. Marco’s mom spent days at our dining room table writing each guests name and destination.
The flowers, oh the flowers! I spent the most time on the flowers. I even made a power point presentation for the florist. They were beautiful. I carried a bouquet of hydrangea, lily, and ivory roses. My bridesmaids carried hydrangea, Picasso calla lily, lavender roses, and anemone. I wanted to incorporate my favorite color purple in the ceremony, but in a subtle way. To each of their bouquets, I attached two charms. One was their initial; the other was something special that reminded me of them. For Taty a wine bottle for all of our good times, for Jen a sun that looks like our matching tattoos we got when we were 18 years old, for Erica a flip flop for all of our beach adventures, for Melissa a cowboy boot for all of our country concerts, for Nicole a survivor’s ribbon for overcoming breast cancer, for Aimee an elephant because she’s collected them for years, for Jacqui a key because it’s her symbol of safety, for Andrea a shamrock for her love of her Irish heritage. Marco wore a Calla Lily and his groomsman wore the Picasso Calla Lily. My mother wore an Iris corsage and his mother a lily.
We hung topiary balls of the same flowers from the natural arc in the trees and the centerpieces were the exact same arrangement as the bridesmaids’ bouquets.
At one point during the planning process, Marco said, “Do you know, you spent more on flowers than we did on our honeymoon in Italy?” This prompted me to make a minor change, adjusting the centerpieces to table height instead of an elevated arrangement. We saved some money and it was still beautiful. Jaime and her team at Ramones were very patient and understanding with us during the entire planning process. To this day, selecting the flowers was my favorite part of planning. I had to laugh when my sister Andrea gave her bouquet to my mother the following day as her Mother’s Day gift. It really is the thought that counts.
How did you choose Brantwyn?
It was important to us to have a special venue, because we were having our ceremony at the location. Brantwyn was the only venue we visited. We fell in love with it the moment we saw it. We loved the ceremony site, with the arc in the trees; we loved the character of the mansion, the staircase, and the charm of the checkered dance floor. We loved the divided rooms; it gave our event a more personal feel. It was perfect.
Tell us about your cake…
Marco didn’t have many opinions about the wedding, but when he did, he was passionate about it. During our tasting at the DuPont Country Club, he selected our wedding cake, hazelnut pound cake with butter cream frosting. He put the combination together on a fork, fed it to me and said “that’s our wedding cake”. It was really delicious. I almost didn’t want to give him a bite during the cake cutting. Our cake topper was special to us – we had it custom made and it added a little bit of our humor to the day. It was our likeness as Superman and Wonder Woman and also included Piper. Who wouldn’t want to be a super fit power couple like that?
Now that you’re married, and you’ve been through planning a wedding together, what advice would you give to other couples who are just starting the process?
Take the time to decide what you really want. What is really important to you and your fiancé. We decided to invest in the venue and the photography. For us, it was the right decision. We were fortunate to find Leslie (who is a-ma-zing!) and the entire staff at the DuPont, namely Harry and Paige. They were so personable and professional; everything was executed without a flaw.
It’s easy to get caught up in the experience and lose sight of what is going to make you truly happy on your wedding day, stay focused, make a decision, and don’t think twice. Don’t lose sight of the meaning of the day in the details.
One thing we did together was to take private dance lessons. We certainly didn’t learn how to dance in three sessions the week before the wedding, but we absolutely enjoyed and valued that one hour a day we had, just the two of us, to focus on something besides place cards, seating charts, and flower arrangements. It was a moment of sanity during a very stressful week.
Your wedding day is a busy and chaotic day. Take the time to slow down, look around and enjoy the moment. You will have to consciously make an effort to speak to everyone in between photos and cake cutting and bouquet tossing, and you won’t get to everyone, but really try to enjoy the chaos. It’s a once in a lifetime event.
Is there anything else you’d like to share?
I’m lucky to be part of a competitive fitness team known as “Trixie’s Pixies”. The team is comprised of a number of women who all come from different backgrounds and professions and are all very dear friends to me. These ladies were an important part of my day.
LaVonne Coker, makeup artist extraordinaire, arrived at my home at 10am on Saturday morning. From 10am until after 4pm she never sat down. She worked tirelessly to ensure more than 10 women looked absolutely beautiful on Saturday evening. We had makeup in the dining room, mimosas in the kitchen, and a lot of laughs talking around the table. Somewhere in between she managed to switch from makeup artist to wedding guest! I’m grateful for the time and effort she put into my day! LaVonne is extremely talented and has a way of putting you at ease with her sense of humor. You look forward to your conversations with her because you know you’ll feel better for having spent some time with her. Plus, when the minister is commenting on how great the makeup looks, you know you’re lucky to have LaVonne.
Meghan Craighton is also a Pixie and one of those people you immediately love. You feel like you’ve known her for years and it’s only been minutes. Over the course of the planning process, she booked hair appointments for all the bridesmaids and the mothers. She listened as I vented about the planning process and gave me tips and advice and encouragement, usually while I was under a dryer at her salon, Salon by Dominic. On my wedding day, Megan came into the salon on her scheduled Saturday off with her toddler Meilah in tow. She sat me down, gave me a glass of wine and spent over two hours ensuring my hair was absolutely perfect and would hold until the evening ceremony. When she was finished pinning and clipping and curling, she said this is my gift to you.
It touched my heart. It meant the world to me that Meghan came in on her day off to make sure I loved my hair and looked the best I could on my wedding day. How could I not with the five time consecutive winner of Delaware Today’s best stylist doing my hair?
Venue: Brantwyn Estates – Wilmington, Delaware
Dress shop: Claire’s – Wilmington, Delaware
Suit: Calvin Klein
Hair: Salon by Dominic – Hockessin, Delaware
Make-up: LaVonne Coker – Wilmington, Delaware
Flowers: Ramone’s – Wilmington, Delaware
Officiant: Ian Stevenson
Band/DJ: EBE – Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
Delaware wedding photographer: Leslie Barbaro