What was your favorite part of the wedding day?
Alexa: I’m going to cheat and say that I had two favorite parts. The first was getting gussied up with my friends in the bridal suite. So many great moments. It was the first time in a LONG time I had been able to relax – I was so calm! It finally felt like the celebration I had been looking forward to. But also, I felt very loved and supported. I hadn’t eaten all day… my friend Rachel scoured Chadds Ford for a snack that wouldn’t make me thirsty and bloated. My bouquet was ruined… my now sister-in-law made me the PERFECT bouquet out of a freaking bunch of Costco flowers, some wildflowers and some twine. Someone misplaced my vows… one of the stylists from Gloss spent an extra fifteen minutes rewriting them for me! There was just a lot of love in that bridal suite, and I feel really grateful to have been surrounded by everyone who was there. My second favorite part was the ceremony. I was still reeling from the stress of the missing vows, and I was on the verge of tears as I walked down the aisle. But when Grant’s cousin Danny (our officiant) started talking, all of the stress fell away. I was so glad we’d chosen him to marry us! He was funny and warm, and I couldn’t cry because I was laughing too much. He also gave a great speech that made me feel so welcome in my new family. It was perfect. When it was time to say my vows, I was so happy and calm that I pretty much forgot I was in front of a huge crowd of people. I just got to talk to Grant. Then, walking back down the aisle to the Beach Boys just felt really triumphant. We did it! Just being surrounded by the people I love the most and joining them together by marrying my favorite dude in the world… what is better than that?!
Grant: When everything fell into place and we could both calm down enough to really enjoy the day. Finally getting to talk to everyone rather than running around like a maniac was very nice. Also when we dug up the bourbon.
Now that you’ve been through planning a wedding together, what advice would you give to other couples who are starting to plan their wedding?
Alexa: Don’t freak out. None of the details matter. It all works out in the end. Also, I think it’s rare for any couple to split the planning responsibilities evenly. If you’re the planner, don’t try to do it all yourself. DELEGATE. Ask for help! If you’re not the planner in the relationship, ask what you can do to help! Or just elope.
Grant: Don’t worry too much. The internet wedding advice columns are usually helpful to provide a guideline or ideas, but don’t get pulled into the sensationalism. Just have your wedding the way you want to.
What’s next for the two of you as a couple?
Alexa: Short term – enjoy being married! Everyone keeps asking us if it feels different. At first, we kept saying no, we already felt married. It’s kind of like when you turn 30 and everyone asks you if you feel older. Uh, no, I feel the same as I did yesterday when I was 29! But after some thought, I can say that it does feel different. It feels better. I’m so happy and proud to call Grant my husband, and putting a ring on it is the equivalent of shouting it from the rooftops. I love it!
Long term – who knows. We want to move (definitely east coast, but we’re not sure exactly where) and we want to travel. We might have kids, we might not. We will definitely adopt more dogs one day and we already have their names (Batman and Scrapple) picked out. (Morbid? Maybe. We just love dogs.) All I can say for sure is that we’re going to keep having a lot of fun together.
Grant: I have to walk the dog before work.
Check back tomorrow for some color and the story of how Alexa & Grant met!
Hair & make-up: Gloss Salon – Newark, DE
Head piece: BHLDN
Venue: The Gables at Chadds Ford – Chadds Ford, PA
Wilmington, Delaware wedding photographer: Leslie Barbaro Photography